Watchfulness on swinging

Love... Lust... Affection...

Where does one stop & the other begin?

My husband & I were in the "lifestyle" for a few years & we're still trying on figure out what the hell we were doing? Were we looking to add to OUR marriage or did we each have a different reason? I know for me it gave me an outlet to explore being BI.

I did find my two closes friends & while my husband will never fully trust me with them, I know the friendships have grown out of lust & turned into affection.

I love the energy of friends.. What more can I say.. I'm still trying to get a grip on all that happened & all the mistakes that were made. I do have advice for anyone thinking about exploring...

• Do it for yourself. If you do it just because your partner wants to, you're domed!
  
• Talk, talk & talk some more. If the talks turn into arguments.. STOP!
• Don't let things slid or sweep it under the rug. Speak up right then & there.
  
• Go with your gut feeling. You will most always be in the right.
• Use protection every single time.
  
• Don't ever do anything while trashed.
• Agree on each couple you meet.
• NEVER EVER take the lifestyle over family or real friends. This can not be stressed more.

This is a subject I'm quite comfortable talking about. While I doubt I will ever be involved in it again, I still find it very interesting & kudos if your relationship is strong enough to survive.