Do you know yourself well enough to be confident?

I read something today that totally made since & rang very true with myself.. I never formed the words as well as she did.

I'm sure there are a lot of people out there who are comfortable separating the sex they have with the people they are, but I'm not. The sex I have is as much a part of who I am as the girl who loves to bake for her office coworkers. I mean, it's part of my identity. As much as I am a generous woman, I am a sexual one with a big love for intimacy and passion. I'm given to doting on partners, and I love selfishly receiving. I'm keen on orgasms. But I'm also keen on taking all night to get there sometimes. I seek power almost only in sexual exchanges, though sometimes in my life; but certainly there's a part of me that does seek that power. To deny that she exists, or to wrongly assert she's just a "mode" I operate under, would be to blatantly ignore a core part of who I can be, and often am.

Wow.. How true! For a while I did think it was something I needed to change about myself but then I realized if changed that I would fundamentally change who I am & how I view life.

How each of us gets to that point where we stop segregating who we are sexually with who we think we are morally, and realizing they don't have to be separate people, that we can (and often are) both, is a struggle I think some of us will be fighting for our whole lives. There will be no easy answer to how you get to that point of accepting the coexistence of your sexuality and your morality, and the realization that one need not cancel out the other.

Wow... Why is it so difficult, scary or for people to realize they are who they are? Outside forces tell how we should think, dress, what is right or wrong. While I'm not talking about murder; laws are here to protect people from harm. I'm talking about what makes us happy. What makes you tick? If you repress that part of you to show the world what is false, does anybody know the real you? Do you trust the world to know the real person? Do you know yourself well enough to be confident?
I'm almost to the point where you can like me or piss off. But I'm lacking confidence in myself. I don't know myself well enough not to let outside forces mold me. I'm hoping that will change soon.